Online Therapy for Men Who Want To Heal and Grow

Toby Macklin MA, Registered Clinical Counsellor

serving Vancouver, Victoria, Nanaimo & across British Columbia

I’m Toby Macklin and I work with men, mostly aged 20 to 50, in Vancouver, Victoria, Nanaimo and across BC, helping them live more satisfying and purposeful lives, often in the face of trauma.

You may experience anxiety, depression, or confusion. You may be unhappy in your work or your relationships, and likely struggle with a harsh internal critic. Perhaps you’ve realized that events in the past continue to impact you and are preventing you from living the way you want to.

Many men have suffered physical, emotional, or sexual abuse in their childhoods. Even “mild” dysfunction in families can deeply affect a child’s sense of worth into adulthood. Some of the men I work with have also had frightening or painful experiences as teens and younger adults, involving discrimination, bullying, addiction, the loss of loved ones, or their own physical and mental health. Some have experienced religious trauma: if you grew up in a strict religious environment, or had adverse religious experiences later in life, you may now be struggling to find your way ahead.

You may have nightmares or insomnia, or find it hard to stop thinking about things that have happened. Maybe you’re jittery or on edge, or you over-react to seemingly small provocations. You look for ways to numb your feelings (like drinking for example), or try to get rid of aspects of yourself you don’t like, but you know this isn’t really working and often causes more problems than it solves. All of this inevitably affects your relationships with partners and other important people in your life. You want something different.

healing and growth

The good news is that we all have innate resources that can empower us to heal and grow. When you come to counselling with me, we’ll work together to help you discover those resources, heal from traumatic experiences, and find renewed pleasure and meaning in your life.

Although trauma can have very painful consequences, it may also provide an opportunity to reevaluate your life and discover strengths and ambitions you didn’t know were there before. In our work together, we’ll aim for both healing and growth. Contact me today to make an appointment.